where does it hurt?

I read the message below on Sunday afternoon, February 27, 2022, just days after Russia attacked Ukraine. It’s written by Maria Shriver in her “Sunday Morning Paper.” The goal of her writing is to “Inspire Hearts and Minds. Move Humanity Forward. Live Your Wildly Authentic Life.” I found it helpful and encouraging. I hope you do, as well. –Pastor Lisa

“Later that night, I held an atlas in my lap, ran my fingers across the whole world, and whispered, where does it hurt? It answered, everywhere, everywhere, everywhere.”

—Warsan Shire

I read the above quote by Warsan Shire at the beginning of this week, and the notion of the world speaking its pain really struck me. I felt it deeply in my heart.

It made me think back to the times when my children were little and sick. I would hold them and ask them where they felt pain, but they were unable to pinpoint the location or the cause. They just knew it was everywhere, and so that’s what they would say: “Mommy, it hurts everywhere.”

I feel like this quote aptly describes where we are as a world and as human beings right now. If the world could speak at this very moment, I think that it would say exactly what my children used to say: It hurts everywhere.

I also feel like pain is the one thing most people around the world have in common right now. It’s everywhere. We feel it in our bodies, in our minds, and in our hearts. We feel it in our families, in our neighborhoods, and in our politics.

Clearly, the situation in Ukraine is front and center at this moment. The pictures, videos, and stories coming out of the country are stunning, heartbreaking, and so painful to witness. At the same time, they are also heroic and awe inspiring. I can’t imagine what it's like to live there right now. I can’t imagine what our fellow human beings there are feeling at this exact moment. I know they are feeling fear, anger, disbelief, and confusion, for sure. And all that is mixed in with a deep determination to defend their country, which they love. …

Every week, I try to use this column to take you above the noise of the day. I try to make sense of what is happening in our world. I try to connect the news of the week to our own individual lives. Some weeks it’s clear to me what to say, but other weeks it’s much harder. The events of this week are downright impossible to make sense of. I can’t make sense of what’s happening in Ukraine. I can’t make sense of the bloodshed, the heartache, the death, or the pain. …

I felt the pain that sprung up in my body everywhere, and here I was sitting in the safety of my home! Imagine the fear parents must feel as they try to send their children off to safety. Imagine the pain in those who are huddled in subway stations, unsure as to where will be bombed next. Imagine the pain within people’s bodies when they hear that they’ve lost a loved one, or as they watch the devastation from afar and feel helpless. The pain hurts everywhere. …

I know the answers are complicated and long. I know it’s also tempting to turn away. But I hope we don’t. I’ve learned in my lifetime that trying to outrun pain is fruitless. It always, always catches up to you. Trying to numb it also doesn’t work, and yet that’s what is happening. We are becoming numb to the violence that is all around us. We scroll past school shootings. We scroll past the violence engulfing our cities. Our social media platforms are rife with verbal violence thrown at each other. Our political disagreements are violent and threatening. People are dying from drug overdoses in record numbers from their pain. There is pain everywhere—in every home and on every street corner.

So, what can each of us do? That’s always my question. For one, we can support organizations working in Ukraine. We can share stories of valor, courage, and truth. We can hold space for someone we know who is hurting and reassure them we are here and will not turn away.

Not turning away. That’s what we can do. It’s trite, but it’s what we can each do to offer peace and love through our thoughts, words, and deeds. We can’t go on like we’ve been going on. It hurts too much. We are killing our earth, ravaging our families, and allowing madmen to threaten our world. We are allowing cronies to pillage and wreak havoc as they cruise around in fancy yachts, live in palaces, and spend millions. And we act as if it’s all OK.

We don’t all live in Ukraine, but if it can happen there, why can’t it happen here? Think about that. It’s not far-fetched. What is the price of peace today—in our country, in our homes, and in our hearts? What can each of us do to stop the pain? Actually quite a lot.

So, let’s stay focused on the situation in Ukraine, and the situation in our own lives. We can be messengers of peace. We are strong enough to face the pain of the world and our own pain. We are strong enough to ask where our world hurts. Only then can we hope for a different answer.

Maria Schriver

Prayer of the Week: Dear God, please help us make sense of all the pain. Please help us find a way to heal the hurt inside ourselves and around the world. Please help us be messengers of peace and hold space for those who are suffering. Amen